Author: Amaritday

Self Care Without The Guilt!

- Amaritday

by Courtney Long

“Why should I take care of myself? I thought I was supposed to put everyone else’s needs first. And isn’t self-care selfish?”

Self-care is an often misunderstood concept. Taking care of yourself does not mean neglecting everyone else in your life. And BIG NEWS-self-care has nothing to do with being selfish or a “bad” person. Self-care is as essential to life as breathing.

Before I continue, let me clarify how I define self-care. Self-care involves addressing your own basic needs, such as food, water, shelter, sleep, money to live on, etc. It also involves addressing some of your higher needs such as health, love, sense of belonging, etc. Self-care even involves addressing your wants and passions, including hobbies and the activities that make your heart sing and truly bring you joy. It means being nice to yourself. Treating yourself with love and respect. For some people-particularly those in caregiving roles or with demanding schedules-finding 15 minutes a day of peace and quiet to themselves is a loving act of self-care.

Simply stated, self-care involves whatever it takes to make you feel energized, happy, balanced and at ease in this world. For me, self-care involves getting a really good night’s rest…Eating nutritious, energizing foods…Getting in some movement, because my body loves to move….Filling my life with positive people….Having time daily for spirituality…Having fun by dancing, listening to great music, hiking in the mountains, being in the beauty of nature…It also means thinking positive thoughts and talking kindly to myself…which also means that when my inner critic shows up, I get to gently tell her she has the rest of the day off…

Whatever self-care means to you, it is IMPORTANT. Not just important, but VITAL. Vital to your well-being, your enjoyment of life, and your SURVIVAL! If you do not take care of yourself, you will not survive. If you do not feed yourself-physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually-you will starve to death. Lack of self-care leads to a great deal of stress for our minds, bodies and spirits. And unfortunately, a majority of chronic and acute illnesses are linked to high levels of stress. In some ways, neglecting your own self-care is like slowly-or even quickly-ending your life.

Why else might you want to take good care of yourself? Well, if you are a caring person and responsible for the care of family members or others…you cannot give what you don’t have. If you are not healthy, energized and balanced yourself, how can you possibly expect to tend to someone else’s healthy, energy and happiness? If you give, and give and give, and never receive-from others or from yourself-you are left with nothing. Completely void, without anything left to give. I am sure many of you can relate to how that void feels-in your body, mind, and spirit.

My favorite analogy here is a bucket. If your bucket is empty, you have nothing left to give. The more full your bucket, the more you have to give. Life is a constant process of pouring from your bucket, and refilling-giving and receiving. How do you refill your bucket? With self-care, self-love, self-nurturing…by doing all those things that bring you balance and joy. Self-care is the supply of water that will fill your bucket and allow you to continue giving and loving.

I am not suggesting that you engage in so much self-care that you forget everyone else. That would not be good either. I am suggesting a good balance of self-care and care for others.

And one final thought…Self-care is NOT selfish. It is self-preserving. It makes your life flow a LOT smoother. The happier and more balanced you are, the happier and more balanced others around you can be. Taking good care of yourself is actually the most loving thing you can do for others.

So there you have it! 100% certified, bona fide PERMISSION to take good care of YOU. Should anyone try to give you a guilt trip, have them read this article-or send them to me.

I’d love to hear your thoughts! Leave me a comment or e-mail me at Courtney@CaringforYourSpirit.com!

About the Author:
Courtney Long, MSW, LC, CHt is a Transformational Life Coach and Certified Hypnotherapist, trained at the award winning Southwest Institute of Healing Arts in Tempe, AZ. She obtained her Masters Degree in Social Work and Bachelors Degree in Psychology from the University of Michigan in Ann Arbor, MI. She is based in Phoenix, AZ yet serves clients worldwide. Courtney’s company, Caring for Your Spirit, LLC supports and inspires caring adults to love and nurture themselves. With compassion and an uplifting, refreshing perspective, Courtney teaches caring adults the importance of self-care, provides vital self-care tools, and empowers her clients to live the fulfilling life of balance, health, happiness and energy that they deserve. Courtney draws on her experience as a Wellness Coach in a corporate setting and as a Geriatric Social Worker for Adult Day Health Centers. Courtney has created & facilitated empowering caregiver support groups and for 10+ years has professionally supported caregivers, seniors and caring adults in obtaining their personal wellness goals and making their own well-being top priority.

Courtney leads empowering workshops & teleclasses. She is a powerful speaker, a member of the Alzheimer’s Association Speaker’s Bureau, and a recognized expert on stress reduction and self-care.

10 Steps to Detect & Stop Secret Self-Sabotage

- Amaritday

It’s a little known – yet much denied fact – that people treat you the way you secretly ask to be treated. Your unspoken request that determines how others behave toward you is extended to -and received by – everyone you meet.

What is your invisible inner life? It’s the way you actually feel – as opposed to the way you’re trying to appear – when meeting any person or event.

In other words, your invisible inner life is your real inner condition. It’s this state of internal affairs that communicates with others long before any words are exchanged. These silent signals from your inner self are what a person receives first upon meeting you. The reading of them determines from that point forward, the basis of your relationship. This unseen dialogue that goes on behind the scenes whenever two people meet is commonly understood as “sizing one another up.” But here’s the point of this introduction.

We’re often led to act against ourselves by an undetected weakness that goes before us – trying to pass itself off to others – as strength. This is secret self-sabotage. It sinks us in our personal and business relationships as surely as a torpedo wrecks the ship it strikes.

Any person you feel the need to control or dominate – so that he or she will treat you as you “think” you should be treated will always be in control of you and treat you accordingly. Why? Because anyone from whom you want something, psychologically speaking, is always in secret command of you.

It would never dawn on any person to want to be more powerful or superior to someone else unless there was some psychic character within him or her that secretly felt itself to be weaker or lesser than that other individual.

Any action we take to appear strong before another person is actually read by that person as a weakness. If you doubt this finding, review the past interactions and results of your own relationships. The general rule of thumb is that the more you demand or crave the respect of others, the less likely you are to receive it.

So it makes no sense to try and change the way others treat you by learning calculated behaviors or attitude techniques in order to appear in charge. Stop trying to be strong. Instead, start catching yourself about to act from weakness. Don’t be too surprised by this unusual instruction. A brief examination reveals its wisdom. Following are ten examples of where you may be secretly sabotaging yourself while wrongly assuming you’re strengthening your position with others.

1. Fawning before people to win their favor.

2. Expressing contrived concern for someone’s well being.

3. Making small talk to smooth out the edges.

4. Hanging onto someone’s every word.

5. Looking for someone’s approval.

6. Asking if someone is angry with you.

7. Fishing for a kind word.

8. Trying to impress someone.

9. Gossiping.

10. Explaining yourself to others.

The next time you feel yourself about to give into any of the above behaviors, give yourself a quick and simple internal test. This test will help you check for and cancel any undetected weakness that’s about to make you sabotage yourself.

Here’s what to do: Run a pressure check.

Here’s how: Come wide awake and run a quick inner scan within yourself to see if that remark you’re about to make, or the answer you’re about to give without having been asked for it, is something you really want to do. Are you about to speak because you’re afraid of some as yet undisclosed consequence if you don’t?

Your awareness of any pressure building within you is proof that it’s some form of fear – and not you – that wants to do the explaining, fawning, impressing, blabbing, or whatever the self-sabotaging act the inner pressure is pushing you to commit.

Each time you feel this pressurized urge to give yourself away, silently but solidly refuse to release this pressure by giving in to its demands. It may help you to succeed sooner if you know that fear has no voice unless it tricks you into giving it one. So stay silent. Your conscious silence stops self-sabotage.

Summary: In any and every moment of your life, you are either in command of yourself, or you are being commanded.

About the Author:
Guy Finley is the acclaimed author of more than 30 books and audio programs on the subject of self-realization, several of which have become international best sellers. His popular works, published in 16 languages, are widely endorsed by doctors, professionals, and religious leaders of all denominations. Among many others, his popular titles include: The Secret of Letting Go, Design Your Destiny, The Lost Secrets of Prayer, Apprentice of the Heart, and Let Go and Live in the Now.

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Haters by Maya Angelou

- Amaritday


Haters

November 16, 2009

“There are three important things in life – hope, love and faith. Of these three things, the most important is love” – Holy Bible.

A hater is someone who is jealous and envious and spends
all their time trying to make you look small so they can look tall.

They are very negative people to say the least. Nothing is ever good enough!

When you make your mark, you will always attract some haters…

That’s why you have to be careful with whom you share
your blessings and your dreams, because some folk can’t
handle seeing you blessed…

It’s dangerous to be like somebody else… If God
wanted you to be like somebody else, He would have given you what He gave them! Right?

You never know what people have gone through to get what they have…
The problem I have with haters is that they see my glory, but they don’t know my story…
If the grass looks greener on the other side of the
fence, you can rest assured that the water bill is higher there too!

We’ve all got some haters among us!

Some people envy you because you can:
a) Have a relationship with God
b) Light up a room when you walk in
c) Start your own business
d) Tell a man / woman to hit the curb (if he / she isn’t about the right thing)
e) Raise your children without both parent being in the home

Haters can’t stand to see you happy.
Haters will never want to see you succeed.

Most of our haters are people who are supposed to be on our side.

How do you handle your undercover haters?

You can handle these haters by:

1. Knowing who you are & who your true friends are (VERY IMPORTANT!!)

2. Having a purpose to your life:
Purpose does not mean having a job. You can have a job and still be unfulfilled.
A purpose is having a clear sense of what God has called you to be.
Your purpose is not defined by what others think about you.

3. By remembering what you have is by divine prerogative and not human manipulation.

Fulfill your dreams! You only have one life to live…when its your time to leave this earth, you ‘want’ to be able to say, ‘I’ve lived my life and fulfilled ‘my’ dreams,… Now I’m ready to go HOME!

When God gives you favor, you can tell your haters,
‘Don’t look at me…Look at Who is in charge of me….’

Heaven or Earth?

- Amaritday

This is a well written piece that i wanted to share with you ladies! things that make me go hhhmmmm! xoxo

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Heaven or Earth?
by Sunny Soleil

The Bible holds much wisdom for me. I think that God, The Creator, gave us a perfect Earth. The Garden of Eden, as a metaphor is not just about disobedience, it is about GREED.

Adam and Eve got all they needed and then they weren’t satisfied with it and just had to have that extra apple of wisdom in their belly.

Humans got a beautiful Earth and slowly we found ways to live more successfully on it, with less strife to us and more ease and contentment.

WE JUST DIDN’T KNOW WHEN TO STOP

We began by using our brains and intuition to create what seemed like small miracles of tools and shelter building and finding ways to plant that worked with nature and moving from single units into tribes.

We learned how to feed ourselves enough without depleting the resources, hunting only what we needed, taking care of our elders, passing on our wisdom, worshiping the Creator and respecting the Creation and for some it was worshiping the Creation.

It doesn’t matter. What does matter is that we felt awe and love and respect for all that was and of which we were a part not apart from.

Like Adam and Eve, we wanted more. And slowly, as we got more and more creative and made more we got more fearful that we would not have enough so we started to look to our neighbor and take from him.

And the dark forces began to swell inside us as the small miracles became global conjuring tricks and wicked wiles to transport us to a FALSE HEAVEN of stuff, stuff, stuff and money, money, money.

And because it is false this ‘heaven’ is crumbling despite attempts to mesmerize us into oblivion. We are dumbed down with TV, kept high fructose corn syrup-happy and sick with food that poisons us but tastes ‘good’. This feeds the money machine of pharmaceutical greed as we become so sick we need medications that we have to take for life. And we look in the mirror and have learned that we are not perfect so we buy clothes and shoes to make us feel good even if they’re damaging to us. And with every nip and tuck we build the walls of the false heaven.

We have been led, by Satan, if you wish, to believe we are not good or happy without these things. And we used our ‘wiles’ to get more and more and more, beyond anything we really need.

We disconnected from earth with every skyscraper, car, washing machine, gadget, and boob lift that we yearned for. IF THERE IS ANY SIN ON THIS WORLD IT IS THE BELIEF IN THE FALSE HEAVEN.

And so it turns in a never-ending circle. Our lack of that connection both to Earth and to the awesome sense of a Creator has made us needy. We need all that stuff to feel good because we ain’t linking to that which is not a substitute for but IS the REAL thing.

“And God said “See, I have given you every herb that yields seed which is on the face of all the earth and every tree whose fruit yields seed, to you it shall be for food” Gen 1:29

We got heaven on earth, we wanted more. We wanted to make it Superduperheaven inc and we got so wound up in that pursuit that we almost destroyed the real heaven. And we sold our souls to Money. We even printed on the stuff those words ‘In God We Trust’. Who are we kidding????

Most of us don’t trust in God, we trust in having enough MONEY. We’ve begun to worship a graven image and it’s KILLING US.

The return at the end of the Bible to the Tree of Life, to the Garden is symbolic.

The return of Christ may well be imminent in an additional way to that it is widely interpreted it to be.

There are more and more messengers and heralds arising in the land bidding us to change our ways to repent because the end really is nigh!!!

The message has always been delivered in the facet and form and substance that is right for the times related to the ability of the people’s readiness for it.

Our consciousness is expanding there is no question. Availability of information and ideas across the internet has seen to that.

We as a people are much more open to the spiritual life witnessed by what is being put out on the internet. And there is also a large group of we the people, who are hiding under the covers or boldly trumpeting that this is all nonsense, because deep down we are terrified and doing what it takes to avoid thinking that our false heaven may just crumble.

Whether we are admitting that things are going kaput or not, we can’t help be more aware of what’s going on and the lack of integrity and downright satanic machinations in the upper echelons of human ‘power’.

Could it be that what the Mayans predicted as this exponential expansion of consciousness is the same thing as the return of Christ only this time ‘He’ is returning, not as a man, but as an essence or spiritual power to our very hearts.

Could it be that he will ‘appear’ inside us and infuse us with the Christ Energy needed to repair the wrongs we’ve done to this earth and to our own souls and to our Fathers Creation, the Garden of Eden. Could it be that we will enter heaven on earth where there is no war, where all is love for all things and out of that we operate totally in tune with our wonderful existence and build for the future generations to come a paradise like no other.

Maybe it is not the end of the world but the rebirth and beginning.

In Genesis God gave us The Garden of Eden, in Revelations we hear these words

“And he showed me a pure river of water of life, clear as crystal, proceeding from the throne of God and the Lamb. In the middle of its street, and on either side of the river, was the tree of life, which bore twelve fruits, each tree yielding its fruit every month. The leaves of the tree were for the HEALING OF THE NATIONS. ” from Rev 22:1

“And behopld, I am coming quickly, and My record is with Me, to give to every one according to his work. I am the Alpha and the Omega, the Beginning and the End, the First and the Last. Blessed are those that do his commandments for they may have the right to the tree of life…, and may enter through the gates into the city.” from Rev:22 12-14

Adam and Eve sought the fruit of the Tree of Good and Evil, they got it and our lives have been a struggle between good and evil ever since.

And as a punishment they and all of us were shut out of the Garden and away from the Tree of Life. And if we accept that Jesus was sent to redeem us of this so that we may begin to see the way to the light and the Tree of Life, wouldn’t it make sense that one of the most godly things we can do beyond being love, is to start repairing the wrong we’ve done and move towards Heaven by creating Heaven on Earth.

In the Bible God gave us ‘dominion’ over the rest of his creation. In our actions we have interpreted ‘dominion’ as a licence to do what the heck we want’. We have enslaved, raped, looted from, abused, tortured and murdered not just our fellow man but all of nature and many of us don’t even get that this is a sin and maintain a smooth veneer of indifference.

And the worst thing is that we believe we have a right to act like this. We are just like the slave master who believed he could treat his slaves with no respect or care or love at all because they ‘belonged’ to him.

EARTH DOES NOT BELONG TO US. THE CREATION IS NOT OURS. IT BELONGS TO ALL CREATION

DOMINION means STEWARDSHIP!! My husband has just about gone crazy screaming that across the land. It’s like we must do what it takes, in loving care, to make sure that every single person in the world GETS IT or WE ARE DOOMED.

Perhaps like John Newton, ex slave ship captain turned monk, who wrote Amazing Grace, we once were lost and now have hope of being found. God does not turn his back on wretches like us, if we admit what we have done and pray for and work towards a changing of our ways truly, deeply in all of our heart and soul. God is waiting for his prodigal children to repent and re-generate.

What Heaven can be found in a restored human soul and a restored earth. Can we do this and create a modern day Garden of Eden, the paradise we all long for..

And what if to enter heaven on earth, we have to become Christ-like in our every being which means loving all humanity, never forsaking another and loving and respecting the Creation in its entirety, not just humans and above all loving God who gave life to us.

Like that we will restore heaven. It is there waiting for us. And I pray to God that we the people, will find a way to get that and let go of our ways. And I am still letting go.

Leaving the false heaven is not easy when we are addicted to so much and our very existence is restricted by rules and forces that would bind us back. We are all subject to these horrors in one way or another and some are easier to defeat and others much more challenging.

Ultimately if we are truly good, and I don’t speak as one who is, merely praying to be, we would sacrifice our lives if it meant leaving a better world for the rest of humanity. NOT an easy thing to accept and fearful to contemplate.

THIS IS A WAR AND WE ARE SOLDIERS and there is battle to be done. And right now we’re disparate bands of guerilla fighters, some more organized than others.. and we need to band together and FIGHT THE GOOD FIGHT.

The Bible and other holy books may well be the basic instruction manuals we need not to leave Earth, but to leave the way of life that we have falsely created and RETURN TO EARTH and MAKE IT THE HEAVEN THAT WE KNOW EMPIRICALLY IT CAN BE.

What She Needs From You!

- Amaritday

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Ken Kendall’s Blog – What She Needs From You! Thoughts on taking care of your wife!
November 3, 2009

It is not important where you get good information, it is only important that you get good information. As you can imagine, I am a little biased in my belief that good information is available to all of you right here. But I can assure you that this blog is not exhaustive nor does it cover many specific ideas and questions. So you may have to check out many sources in your endeavor to get the help you need for your marriage.

It is rarely difficult to understand the truth once you have found it. The work is in the finding of the truth. Once you have determined that you do in fact need help and information that you do not currently have, the next step is to locate the source or sources that posses what you are looking for.

As you can surely imagine, there are so many resources available on the web, through blogs and reference websites. Additionally, there are thousands of books available, many of which address topics ranging from very general to pin-point specific. And while I love the ease in which you can research specific topics on the web, there are times that nothing will be as beneficial as talking with someone directly. Whether that be a family member, a mentor, a pastor, or even a counselor. All of these can be very advantageous depending on your relationships and individual circumstances.

The first step is to acknowledge that you have a need. Second, that you are willing to do the work that will be required to bring benefit to your situation. Third you have to go to the source of the help. And finally, you have to implement your plan for remedy.

Take the time to write down as specific as you can be, what you think the problem is. Try to outline the cause and effect of the problem. Look at both parties to the situation and honestly examine what your own involvement is in the problem and the solution. You might find that in doing so you will be able to answer some of the questions you have on what you can do right now to help. ~ KK

Toxic Relations – Friends Family Lovers!

- Amaritday

Would you know if you were in a toxic relationship? Are you dealing with toxic family members or people in your life who manage to drag you down, make you feel angry, worn out, deflated, belittled, ridiculed or confused? Are you dealing with conflicts and problems because of a toxic parent, sibling, co-worker, spouse, friend, toxic in-laws or other extended family members? Are toxic family members causing stress, anxiety and even symptoms of depression during the holidays and special occasions, a time that is supposed to be about family, love and togetherness?

Most of us could write a laundry list of names of people who make us feel miserable whenever we’re around them, spewing their noxious negative attitudes, behaviors and gossip like nauseating toxic waste. Have you ever wondered what makes toxic people tick, or why some family members have the tendency and inane ability to be two-faced in their relationships with others in the family?

Who Are Toxic People?

Toxic people are extremely negative, miserable, whiny, jealous, inconsiderate, financially irresponsible and entitled, manipulative, narcissistic, selfish, disrespectful, gossip mongers, mentally and emotionally abusive bullies who have no boundaries. Everyone and anyone is fair game for toxic people, with toxic relationships creating undo stress and anxiety for everyone involved. If you are dealing with these problems and conflicts in your life, know that you are not alone.

According to mental health specialists and psychologists, toxic people are “highly insecure people who only feel better about themselves if they make others feel worse, and they make up about ten percent of the population. A toxic person, including family members and in-laws, cause over 50% of all communication and relationship stress in others, health problems such as headaches, stomach pain and digestive problems, due to negative baggage brought on from low-esteem”.

Understanding how low self-confidence and low self-esteem causes some people to grow up to become toxic adults may help you feel better about yourself. However, having some understanding, compassion and empathy for bad childhood experiences and memories that continue to fester and linger in their personalities does not change the fact that their toxic attitudes and behaviors will continue until you stop allowing them to hurt you and your life.

Toxic people are this way because they can and often do get away with it, and it works well for them. If it didn’t work, and work very well, they wouldn’t continue doing it.

Toxic People Will…if not dealt with:

1. Rob us of our dignity.
2. Destroy our self-confidence.
3. Increase our stress levels.
4. Cause health problems.
5. Destroy our morale.
6. Destroy family relationships.
7. Foster negativity.
8. Decrease productivity.
9. Get you fired from your job.
10. Drive you to bankruptcy.

How to Deal With Toxic People and Family Members:

Recognize that toxic people have issues within themselves, and their toxicity has everything to do with them and nothing to do with you. In life, everyone has to take personal responsibility for their own choices, attitudes, actions and behaviors. Toxic people do not do this. You become their personal target. They habitually turn things around and manipulate you to the point where you feel bad, you feel guilty, you feel like you are at fault, therefore responsible for their problems.

You may even begin to feel like you’re “going crazy” or “losing your mind”, wondering if you have become the victim of a psychopath desperately trying to manipulate and control you. Once you recognize the toxic behaviors that are engulfing your life and health, it allows you to take your power back.

Keep emotionally toxic people from ruining your health and happiness by setting limits and personal boundaries, assertively speaking up for yourself, and standing your ground. Don’t make someone else’s problems your own, but physically and mentally distance yourself from the negative and toxic people in your life, which may or may not include cutting the person out of your life entirely.

Knowing what it means to “let go” of negative people, along with their personal demons and issues, allows you the strength and determination needed to live your life without the constant barrage of criticism that can easily erode your own self-esteem, health and well-being.

Dealing with family members and in-laws can be especially difficult and stressful. If there are family members or in-laws that treat you like their personal doormat, criticizing and ridiculing you for everything and anything, you may have to consider putting a strict limit on how often you associate with them, if at all.

Holidays and special occasions can quickly become a dread, where just the thought of being around toxic relatives or friends causes your blood pressure to rise to unhealthy levels. You have the right to decide who to associate with and who not to associate with, who is or isn’t invited or welcome to step foot into your home, including toxic family members.

Toxic people need years of in-depth therapy, not you. You can’t change their attitudes or behaviors, but you can change yourself. You have to decide for yourself how much pushing around you will or will not accept. Allow yourself the personal right to disengage, disassociate, and detach. Use your God-given backbone when dealing with toxic friends, co-workers, family members or in-laws etc, with the understanding that detachment is not a sign that you don’t care but that you are doing what is necessary to preserve your personal health and happiness.

Surround yourself with positive influences, people who genuinely care about you and are supportive of you. These loved ones are a great defense and support group against the negativity of all kinds of toxic relationships or toxic family members, allowing you to choose for yourself to no longer be a victim of their malicious and abusive behaviors.

See: People Pleasers and Doormats as well as Abused Men: Battered and Emotionally Abused Male Victims of Domestic Violence for more.

Are you dealing with problems and conflicts of being in a toxic relationship? Do you struggle with how to respond and react to ridicule and criticism from toxic family members? Share your personal story or even ask a question by leaving a comment below.

Toxic Relationships – Toxic Family Members

How to Be Happy – Some Helpful Hints

- Amaritday

1. Be attentive to yourself. Avoid the media i.e newspapers, telly etc they just inform you of all the unhappy and negative things that are going on around the world and in other peoples’ lives.

2. Live in the now, the moment.

3. You cannot change the past so do not worry about it.

4. You cannot predict the future so don’t worry about it.

5. Realize you cannot change other people, so either accept them for who they are or gravitate towards those who do make you happy.

6. Exercise. You don’t have to be wonder woman or superman, but exercise releases endorphins that will naturally pick up your mood.

7. Learn to let your mind be quiet for 10 minutes a day. Just sit/lay somewhere quiet and comfy and close your eyes. When a negative thought pops into your mind just mentally ask yourself “what am I thinking now?” move on to a positive thought, and every time a negative thought comes into your mind repeat the process it does not matter whether you have 10 minutes of asking “what am I thinking now” you will be pulling your mind away from negativity. This is training your mind to think what you WANT it to think rather than let it go feral and throw anything at you. Over time you will be able to just sit quietly and literally think of nothing, this enables your mind to become more capable of feeling relaxed and happy.

8. Jump up and down on the spot as many times as you can. I have no idea why but it always makes me giggle when I do it!

9. Listen to music you adore, that lifts your heart and makes you want to dance.

10. Do something that makes you feel good, it doesn’t matter what it is or how small it is just a little something to bring you joy.

11. This one sounds way too easy, but, smile. Simply by letting yourself smile will bring your happy levels up.

12. Read regularly and widely, articles, books anything that has a positive, or happy theme to it, if it makes you laugh out loud, even better!

13. Stand tall, breath slowly and deeply. I am only 5 ft 1″ and I can manage it. It is another very simple thing but if you stand with your head held high and shoulders back you will look and feel more positive. Breathing deeply and slowly helps relax, and stops panic. Think about it for a moment if you had just been told you had won something you would sit up straight and laugh or smile. So always feel like a winner!

14. Everything is about thought, so only think happy and positive thoughts. Your feelings and emotions are a guide to your thoughts and alert you to what you are thinking. So pay attention to how you feel. If you are not feeling good use technique no. 7 to halt your thought pattern. Then find something nice to think about. You don’t have to trawl your memory for something good that may have happened, just simply stop and look around you and appreciate something in your line of vision or range of hearing maybe someone is wearing a jumper in your favorite color, or has spiky hair that makes you smile. Maybe you can hear people laughing or even the strange swooshing noise cars make as they whiz past. It’s the simple art of stopping your negative thoughts in their tracks that lifts your mood, then finding something to appreciate raises it further.

15. Appreciate things in your life you want to change, as they give you the direction in which you need to go to move forward. Knowing what you don’t like automatically leads you to know what you do like.

16. Keep your space at work/in the vehicle/at home tidy it will give you a sense of breathing space in your mind.

17. De-clutter your life. If you haven’t used/worn/noticed you owned/not known what something is for, for 6 months or more get rid/throw away/sell/donate to charity/give to a friend who would love it. This will then free up space for you to obtain something wonderful that you do want, will use/wear/play/listen to/read/sit on etc.

18. Write a list of things that really make you happy and try to re-introduce them into your life. Remember this is a list of things that make YOU happy, don’t try to make other people happy, they do that for themselves.

19. Always focus on what you do want and never on what you don’t. Imagine you have a little pixie/fairy/god/goddess/badger that is around you at all times listening in on your thoughts and as soon as it hears a want it goes to sort out getting them to you. So always think positively e.g:

“Wouldn’t it be great if I had a fantastic day at work”
off it pops to get you a fantastic day at work or

“wouldn’t it be superb if I owned an Overfinched Range Rover*”
(*other dream cars are available that is just mine!)
So off it goes again to get your dream car.

Keep away from the negative listings i.e

“my money isn’t going to be in the bank yet”
as off your little dream maker will go to make sure that your money will not be there. Or

“I don’t want this car it’s awful”
your dream maker has just heard you say “want this awful car”, so off it goes on its quest for a car with no wheels.

20. Sing out loud. Find your favorite song and sing your little heart out.

To sum it all up finally, remember this is YOUR life and YOUR experience only YOU can live it there is little point in jumping through hoops to please somebody else, only please yourself. This is not a selfish thing to do as when you are happy you make those around you happy, when those around you are happy they make those around them happy and so it continues! So YOU being happy will effect far more people than you ever imagined.

GO FORTH AND BE HAPPY!!

by Cathi Gaughan

Article Source:
http://EzineArticles.com/?How-to-Be-Happy—Some-Helpful-Hints&id=3973804

Trolls, Dream Stealers and Frienemies

- Amaritday

You don’t have to go very far to find negativity. Just watch the news, listen to the radio, even on the internet and in social media, it can feel like where ever people gather, complaining, whining and negativity will follow.

Keep your attitude positive, and you’ll find more things to be positive about. Life will get better, you’ll feel happier. The secret is surrounding yourself with good people, and avoiding the rest. Avoid these 3 people if possible:

Troll. Trolls are funny creatures. They lie waiting for someone to say something and then BOOM they will swoop in and burst the bubble.

A troll is someone who comes in and says something destructive to you or about you, with no purpose other than to cause a reaction. You probably don’t even know this person. This happens a lot online. Through email, Facebook, Twitter and on blog, people are able to say things they wouldn’t dare do face-to-face.

· When a troll comes into your life, delete the message instantly (if possible).

· Do not reply to it.

· Do not try to soothe the person.

· All they are looking for is attention, so by not giving it to them you win and they will disappear. (If they don’t you have a completely different kind of toxic person – a stalker, and you should notify authorities and report the person).

Dream-Stealer. This person likes to be realistic. You have some exciting news, or a great idea, or a big dream and all they want to do is make you see all the possible chances for failure. They say things to make you doubt yourself. They also love to be right and will do what they can to make sure that they’re right and you’re wrong. They also enjoy being able to say, “I told you so.”

· Simplest way to deal with a Dream-Stealer is to protect your good news.

· If you have something to share, got a great idea, or have an opportunity coming up do not tell this person first. Tell others first. This protects yours positive energy.

Frienemy. This someone who is a Friend and an Enemy. I encourage you to look at this kind of friend…is someone who treats you this badly really a friend? How do you know you have one?

· You dread calling them if you have good news.

· You always feel worse after spending time with them.

· You have been friends for a long time, but aren’t sure why you have kept in touch.

· You become someone you don’t like when you’re with them. (whiny, complainy, negative).

· If you have a frienemy….talk to them about it if you want to remain friends (they may not be aware of it)

· If you don’t want to remain friends just stop spending so much time with them. If avoiding them bothers you, tell them outright that you are in different places in life and have nothing in common any more.

Toxic people have a way of draining the life energy from you, leaving you negative, numb and unsure of how to deal with them.

These kinds of toxic people can be really hard to deal with alone.

By Kimberly Englot

Note from the Author:
If you are currently dealing with a “Troll,” “Dream-Stealer” or “Frienemy you’ll want to join me for the Happiness & Harmony Makeover, where I’m covering in detail exactly what to look out for AND how to deal with these kinds of negative people in your life. It’s FREE and you can sign up at http://kimberlyenglot.com/hhteleseminar.

Kimberley Englot teaches success-driven women how to create the life vision they crave, have the courage to pursue it and live it from a purely authentic place so they can enjoy all the happiness, freedom and success they deserve. She is the founder of the Center of Authentic Self Development. Learn more about her programs and gain access to FREE coaching, inspiration & advice at: http://www.kimberlyenglot.com

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?Trolls,-Dream-Stealers-and-Frienemies—How-to-Identify-and-Deal-With-Toxic-People&id=3786523

Positivity

- Amaritday
Again the universe sends me something to set my head right stay my course, but I have some things to work through & feel on very shaky ground but I have to just leave it to clear breathe center & focus! I ll be back on my square soon enough!

How To Stay Positive With A Negative Vibration Friend, Spouse Or Partner!

People who are making the change to a conscious and spiritually-driven life often discover that they are yoked to someone who is not prepared to come along on that journey. The partner is mired in his or her own negative thoughts and emotions, and meets any topic of spiritual enlightenment, positive vibration and conscious creation with a wall of resistance. Don’t despair…lots of others have gone through this phase too, and come out on the other side with a happier life. Let’s look at what you can do in this situation:

• Stay in your positive vibration state. Don’t allow your spouse or mate to pull you out of alignment with the Universe. When you feel yourself drawn into it, take a walk, go play with the kids, read a book, go have lunch with your best friend… and continue to think and feel positive about yourself, your life and the good qualities in your partner.

• Create a sacred place in your home where you can go to meditate, clear your chakras, express gratitude, Consciously Create, connect with the Universe, —activities that keep your frequency high. Ask your partner to respect this private time, so that you can “recharge.” This recharging should continue to buttress you against his or her negativity.

• Demonstrate how your life has changed by just being happier, more upbeat, less stressed…and soon your partner may want to know what it is that has changed you and how he can he/she get some of it!

• By changing how you respond to things, your spouse is bound to have to adjust. If you are doing something different, that will change the dynamic between you and within the family. Your partner will have to adjust in some ways to meet or stay up with the new you.

• Visualize a harmonious relationship. See your relationship changing and your partner opening up to greater dialogue, a more open-minded attitude and a willingness to explore new avenues—new ways of thinking. Take your focus off of what is WRONG, and put it on what is right and what you desire.

• Throw your “love net” around him or her. I really believe this is an empowering tool to create waves of love that generate vibrational change. See yourself throwing the net of positive loving energy over your mate and yourself, so that it will allow him/her to release the negativity in a net of safety and acceptance. This changes the raises vibration between the two of you, and floods him or her with your loving, positive energy.

• Each day of the week, spend five minutes telling your partner one or more of the things you love about him or her. Your partner will be delighted to hear praise instead of complaints! It may well begin to shift his/her expectations, mood and outlook.

• Focus on making the present moment the very best and most enjoyable you can and vision for the future. Release the past. Don’t reintroduce old patterns, hold him or her to past behavior by bringing up how it’s been previously, and make sure that you don’t fall back into old negative repetitive interactions yourself. Let go of the anticipation that your partner will respond in “the same old way.” Leave the door open for change and possibility. Create a new pattern of interaction through your change of emotions, thoughts and energy habits.

• Present your partner with positive alternatives. When he or she focuses on the negative, gently demonstrate what alternative thought, emotion or perception may further his or her desire. Be a teacher, but do it gently, don’t force-feed these concepts.

• Become a Master Manifestor. As you raise your frequency, good things will increasingly come to you at your beckoning. If your spouse or partner gets jealous, point out that he/she can do this too if he/she follows your path. Then hand your partner a copy of The Art of Conscious Creation!

• Accept that the Universe is creating an opportunity to test how effectively you can maintain your own positive energy in the face of a challenge!

• Lastly, and this is the most extreme outcome, if you have tried all of these over time and you find yourself in a situation that is not emotionally healthy for you, you may have to leave the relationship. It is when the negatives outweigh the positives, with little prospects for change, that you have a responsibility to your ebullient and joyful soul to find an alternative lifestyle either alone or with a more positively-disposed and spiritually aware partner. Remember, even when there are children involved, they fare better with at least one happy parent, rather than two miserable ones

~ Jackie Lapin
theartofconsciouscreation.com
starseeds.net

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Truth Seekers Central

- Amaritday

Facebook | Truth Seekers Central ~ check out the info tab for lots of links

TRUTH SEEKERS CENTRAL is a new age freedom of information group. We are dedicated to the never ending pursuit of Truth, Freedom & Personal Sovereignty.

What if we told you that your understanding of the world has been intentionally manipulated?

That you have been deliberately lied too, and experimented on, without your knowing it?

That there was an army at the helm of every government, institution, and corporation, world wide, working together in unison?

THE NEW WORLD ORDER

The term New World Order (NWO) has been used by numerous aristocrats through the ages, and is a generic term used to refer to a worldwide conspiracy being orchestrated by an extremely powerful and influential group of genetically-related individuals (at least at the highest echelons) which include many of the world’s wealthiest people, top political leaders, whose goal is to create a One World (fascist) Government, stripped of all nationalistic and regional boundaries, that is obedient to their agenda.Listen to Zionist Paul Warburg;”We will have a world government whether you like it or not. The only question is whether that will be achieved by conquest or consent.” (February 17, 1950, as he testified before the US Senate).

THEIR INTENTION IS TO EFFECT COMPLETE AND TOTAL CONTROL OVER EVERY HUMAN BEING ON THE PLANET AND TO DRAMATICALLY REDUCE THE WORLD’S POPULATION BY TWO THIRDS.

In 1992, Dr John Coleman published Conspirators Hierarchy: The Story of the Committee of 300. With laudable scholarship and meticulous research, Dr Coleman identifies the players and carefully details the New World Order agenda of worldwide domination and control. On page 161 of the Conspirators Hierarchy, Dr Coleman accurately summarizes the intent and purpose of the Committee of 300 as follows: “A One World Government and one-unit monetary system, under permanent non-elected hereditary oligarchists who self-select from among their numbers in the form of a feudal system as it was in the Middle Ages. In this One World entity, population will be limited by restrictions on the number of children per family, diseases, wars, famines, until 1 billion people who are useful to the ruling class, in areas which will be strictly and clearly defined, remain as the total world population. There will be no middle class, only rulers and the servants. All laws will be uniform under a legal system of world courts practicing the same unified code of laws, backed up by a One World Government police force and a One World unified military to enforce laws in all former countries where no national boundaries shall exist. The system will be on the basis of a welfare state; those who are obedient and subservient to the One World Government will be rewarded with the means to live; those who are rebellious will simply be starved to death or be declared outlaws, thus a target for anyone who wishes to kill them. Privately owned firearms or weapons of any kind will be prohibited.”

Why the Conspiracy is Unknown

The sheer magnitude and complex web of deceit surrounding the individuals and organizations involved in this conspiracy is mind boggling, even for the most astute among us. Most people react with disbelief and skepticism towards the topic, unaware that they have been conditioned (brainwashed) to react with skepticism by institutional and media influences. Author and de-programmer Fritz Springmeier (The Top 13 Illuminati Bloodlines) says that most people have built in “slides” that short circuit the mind’s critical examination process when it comes to certain sensitive topics. “Slides”, Springmeier reports, is a CIA term for a conditioned type of response which dead ends a person’s thinking and terminates debate or examination of the topic at hand. For example, the mention of the word “conspiracy” often solicits a slide response with many people. What most people believe to be “Public Opinion” is in reality carefully crafted and scripted propaganda designed to elicit a desired behavioral response from the public. Public opinion polls are really taken with the intent of gauging the public’s acceptance of the New World Order’s planned programs. A strong showing in the polls tells them that the programming is “taking”, while a poor showing tells the NWO manipulators that they have to recast or “tweak” the programming until the desired response is achieved.

The NWO Modus Operandi

The NWO global conspirators manifest their agenda through the skilful manipulation of human emotions, especially fear. In the past centuries, they have repeatedly utilized a contrivance that NWO researcher and author David Icke has characterized in his latest book, The Biggest Secret, as Problem, Reaction, and Solution. The technique is as follows: NWO strategists create the Problem – by funding , assembling, and training an “opposition” group to stimulate turmoil in an established political power (sovereign country, region, continent, etc.) that they wish to impinge upon and thus create opposing factions in a conflict that the NWO themselves maneuvered into existence. In recent decades, so called opposition groups are usually identified in the media as ‘freedom fighters’ or ‘liberators’. At the same time, the leader of the established political power where the conflict is being orchestrated is demonized and, on cue, referred to as ‘another Hitler’ (take your pick: Saddam Hussein, Milosevic, Kadaffi, etc.). The ‘freedom fighters’ are not infrequently assembled from a local criminal element (i.e. KLA, drug traffickers). In the spirit of true Machiavellian deceit, the same NWO strategists are equally involved in covertly arming and advising the leader of the established power as well (the NWO always profits from any armed conflict by loaning money, arming, and supplying all parties involved in a war).

The conflict is drawn to the world stage by the controlled media outlets with a barrage of photos and video tape reports of horrific and bloody atrocities suffered by innocent civilians. The cry goes up “Something has to be done!” And that is the desired Reaction. The NWO puppeteers then provide the Solution by sending in UN ‘Peace Keepers’ (Bosnia) or a UN ‘Coalition Force’ (Gulf War) or NATO Bombers and then ground troops (Kosovo), or the military to ‘search for Weapons of Mass Destruction’, which of course are never found. Once installed, the ‘peace keepers’ never leave. The idea is to have NWO controlled ground troops in all major countries or strategic areas where significant resistance to the New World Order takeover is likely to be encountered.

Who is the NWO?

The corporate portion of the NWO is dominated by international bankers, oil barons and pharmaceutical cartels, as well as other major multinational corporations. The Royal Family of England, namely Queen Elizabeth II and the House of Windsor, (who are, in fact, descendants of the German arm of European Royalty – the Saxe-Coburg-Gotha family – changed the name to Windsor in 1914), are high level players in the oligarchy which controls the upper strata of the NWO.

The decision making nerve centers of this effort are in London (especially the City of London), Basel Switzerland, and Brussels (NATO headquarters). The United Nations, along with all the agencies working under the UN umbrella, such as the World Health Organization (WHO), are full time players in this scheme. Similarly, NATO is a military tool of the NWO. The leaders of all major industrial countries like the United States, England, Germany, Italy, Australia, New Zealand, etc. (members of the “G7/G8” ) are active and fully cooperative participants in this conspiracy. The degree of control exerted by the NWO is to the point where only certain hand-picked individuals, who are groomed and selected are even eligible to become the prime minister or president of countries like England, Germany, The United States, or Canada. It didn’t matter whether Bill Clinton or Bob Dole won the Presidency in 1996, the results would have been the same. Both men are playing on the same team for the same ball club. Anyone who isn’t a team player is taken out: i.e. President Kennedy, Ali Bhutto (Pakistan) and Aldo Moro (Italy). More recently, Admiral Borda and William Colby were also killed because they were either unwilling to go along with the conspiracy, weren’t cooperating in some capacity, or were attempting to expose/ thwart the takeover agenda.

The NWO’s Role in Shaping History

Most of the major wars, political upheavals, and economic depression/recessions of the past 100 years (and earlier) were carefully planned and instigated by the machinations of these elites. They include The Spanish-American War (1898), World War I and World War II; The Great Depression; the Bolshevik Revolution of 1917; the Rise of Nazi Germany; the Korean War; the Vietnam War; the 1989-91 “fall” of Soviet Communism; the 1991 Gulf War; the War in Kosovo; and the two Iraq wars. Even the French Revolution was orchestrated into existence by elements of the NWO.

The instigation of a trumped-up war as a cover for amassing fortunes which can be dated back to at least the 12th Century when only a core group of nine members of the Knights Templar, kicked off the The Crusades that lasted for over a century and a half. The core group mentioned above have been reported as being the military arm of a secret society known as the Priory of Sion, but this has been proven to be a hoax.In 1307, the king of France, Philippe the Fair, coveted the wealth and was jealous of the Templars’ power. The French king set out to arrest all the Templars in France on October 13. While many Templars were seized and tortured, including their Grand Master, Jacques de Molay, many other Templars (who had been tipped off) escaped. They eventually resurfaced in Portugal, in Malta (as the Knights of Malta) and later in Scotland as The Scottish Rites of Freemasonry, with Albert Pike playing a key role in defining a plan for establishing a world government.

The acquisition and consolidation of ever greater wealth, natural resources, total political power, and control over others are the motivating forces which drive the decisions of the NWO leaders. The toll in human suffering and the loss of innocent lives are non issues for these individuals.

– Ken Adachi

EDUCATE YOURSELF & BECOME INVOLVED!

“Be the change you want to see in the world”

– Mahatma Gandhi

“Nobody made a greater mistake than he who did nothing because he could do only a little”

– Edmund Burke

“Knowledge speaks, but wisdom listens.”

– Jimi Hendrix

“The most incomprehensible thing about the world is that it is comprehensible”

“The greatest ignorance is to reject something you know nothing about”

– Albert Einstein

THE PEOPLE UNITED CAN NEVER BE DEFEATED!

Whole House Healthy Checklist

- Amaritday

Clean Sweep!

Dont get sick of me! ILY!

Click the links for list –

EWG Action Fund’s Healthy Home Checklist

Healthy Home Tips: Checklist | EWG

Healing Lifestyles & Spas – Search Results

Cleaning List MUST HAVES

Chlorine bleach, while effective at killing germs and whitening clothes, is highly toxic and corrosive, causing respiratory problems, skin and eye irritation and nausea. These harmful effects are largely due to the fumes, not just contact with the liquid.

Take control of your environment by banishing those harsh chemical cleaners that make it difficult to breathe, cause your eyes to water, and require protective gloves to handle. Check out our list of must haves and must dos for a whole new generation of cleaning products that offer safe, environmentally responsible options for keeping your home clean. Created with non-toxic, biodegradable ingredients and gentle formulas, they’ll leave your home fresh without harming you, your children, your pets, or the environment.

If you choose to mix your own, stock your kitchen with these basics: lemon juice, baking soda, white distilled vinegar, biodegradable liquid soap (such as castile), borax, tea tree oil, cream of tartar, and a selection of antiseptic essential oils. Good choices are pine, sweet orange, lemongrass, rose, clove, birch, thyme, cinnamon, rosemary, and eucalyptus.

Try these tips to get started today:
Swap out your chlorinated products – think toilet cleaners, dishwashing detergents and chlorine based disinfectants – with natural alternatives. Hydrogen peroxide, for example, is an excellent and truly safe, stain remover. Just blot or spray, allow to sit for five to ten minutes and wash normally.

Lemon and sunlight are other awesome choices for removing stains on clothes, as is oxygen bleach (like Oxi-Clean), which is also effective as an all-purpose cleaner and all-around laundry booster.

Living Life From A Healthy Stand Point – The Basics!

- Amaritday

Choosing to eat good healthy food is something we choose. It’s a CHOICE.

How do we really challenge ourselves? Starting in the your cabinets ~ purge the unhealthy foods (high in sodium sugar fat preservatives & food colorings) know your ingredients and re-learn (or learn for the first time) how to cook from scratch. Every time I do this the results are so pleasing to the palate, so why do I struggle?

If I really think about it, It all just comes down to planning. Yep good old time fashioned management and prepping ahead makes this healthy lifestyle a bit more simple. As I look back on the past three years, the items I make on a regular basis used to elude me but now have become second nature.

It’s the dinner menu that gets me most often…as a self proclaimed “Domestic Eco Goddess or DEG” my duties include but are not limited to; keep house, laundry, food, pets, and most of all, our children on point. By the end of my day I am whipped and the thought of creating a healthy delicious meal sends me- wanting to ring up the nearest take out joint.

If only I had thought ahead!

Thankfully this doesn’t happen much anymore, so we are definitely cooking with gas.(pun intended)

WTG Moi!

When I do plan ahead I feel more tranquil and my home runs without a hiccup. So if you are like me and struggle sometimes, pick yourself up and start again.

At least we are heading in the right direction~forward not back.

Bon Appetite!!!